Here is confession time again. I hate writing anything on the home or marriage because the enemy always attacks there when I do. So, I have my combat boots on this morning. For those of you who are not married, please pray for those of us who are. The home is under attack in a mighty way these days, and if the enemy can keep couples from communicating he has a foot in the door.

Genesis 2:22-24

The setting was beautiful with flowers and candlelight. The bride and groom descended the stairs then, with shaking hands they each lifted the candle their parents had lit and together they lit the unity candle and extinguished the other flames.

As that unity candle burns you do not see two flames but one. It isn’t divided in the middle reflecting her side and his. It is amazing to me when couples come for counseling and think that marriage is a 50/50 partnership. I almost want to laugh and say, you have no idea. Marriage is hard work and it takes 100% commitment from both spouses to make a marriage really work. Just as that flame has become a unified never to be separated so will your lives be. Yes, you will still be who you are as a person, and you will have your job and responsibilities. You will still have your friends and your spouse will have his friends, but now that you two are one your spouse takes priority over all others. That is how God purposed the husband and wife relationship to be. That is also why it is so difficult when a marriage is torn apart because whole body has been ripped in two. Just as there is pain involved when your body is cut or torn, so it is when a couple tears the one body they form into two. God’s perfect plan was one man and one woman united as one for a lifetime. How are you doing making your husband priority? If it has become a struggle ask God to fan into flame your unity again. Ask Him to help you love your husband only and to serve him as the prized possession he truly is.