Building Trust (a fresh lesson from the stable)

 

We moved Meg to the stable where the trainer is this week. He brought a horse trailer to transport her. She was terrified of getting into the trailer. He led her to the trailer and lured her with sweet hay. She was so sweet leaning as far as she could without falling over then backing away due to her fears. The trainer said, horses are not “hard headed by nature they are just fearful animals”. They have survived for hundreds of years trusting their instinct to avoid fearful situations by running. Slowly but surely the trainer walked her around developing a trust relationship with her. He led her to safe places and spoke soft words of comfort. He even fed her some soft grass then each time he would lead her back to the trailer. After 40 minutes of developing the trust relationship she finally mounted the trailer. As Les and I watched this dance of trust we remarked how that is so much like us when we have had a bad experience. We are anxious any time we come back to a place of fear or failure. Many people feel that way about church.
Les and I thought, “we too need to provide opportunities to build relationship with people in a nonthreatening environment to build trust”. As that trust is built they are more open to stepping back into a place they may have been hurt in or just not know anything about. Just as it took time and patients for Meg to make that step, it may take lots of time and patients for your friend as well, but the end result is that they arrive where they can get the care and attention they need.

Lessons from the Stable

To say I was shocked when Les gave me a horse for our anniversary might be the greatest understatement of the year. My practical brain could not wrap around the fact that my wonderful husband had just fulfilled a dream I had since I was 4 years old. All I could say was “A Horse?” “Where will it stay?” “How will we take care of it?” “Did you get a saddle?” After the adult in me sat down, the child began to believe she really had a horse and one day soon would ride just like I had dreamed. I called my parents, told all of my friends, and beamed from ear to ear almost feeling like someone needed to pinch me.
Reflecting on it all now I still am thrilled and wonder, what would it be like if people got this excited about receiving the gift of Jesus. Would they get past the practical long enough to realize the true gift they had been given? Would they smile ear to ear for days just reflecting on how blessed they really were and dream of all that was ahead. Would they tell everyone about their gift? Oh how I wish they would get this excited. I really believe that receiving this gift has made me fall in love with Jesus even more. James says every good and perfect gift come from above. Jesus is so much more than just a horse, but even the sweet gifts here are a taste of heaven. I can’t wait to see all God has to teach me over the next few years as I learn Lessons from the Stable.

Cajun Dressing

This is one of my favorite recipes for the season. It is a family recipe, so things are fairly general, but that is the way it is with recipes passed from generation to generation.
Cook 2 pans of corn bread and crumble.
Boil 3 chicken breasts and cut into small pieces when done.
Brown 1 lb. Sausage, and 1 lb. ground beef
Sauté 1 stalk of celery, 2 onions, 1 small bell pepper until softened.
Combine all above ingredients in a large mixing bowl. Add 2 small cans of Cream of Mushroom soup and enough chicken broth to make it soggy but not too wet. Shake in salt, pepper, cajun seasoning and sage to taste. Grease 2 9×13 pans and pour the dressing in. Dressing can be frozen or kept in the refrigerator. Serves a large family or can be shared with a neighbor.

Not Just A Movie

It is so awesome when you are speaking and hear God speak something to you that you have never thought of before. Last night was one of those times. I was speaking on preparing your heart for Christmas. I had been talking about spending time daily with Him in prayer and Bible study. Then I thought about Hallmark and Lifetime movies and what makes them so desirable. Most of the stories are about relationships that are apart at the beginning of the movie. Due to unique and entertaining circumstances the two people who are apart are reunited. Isn’t that what God is longing for us? We are far from Him and through circumstances, some good and some difficult we are brought together with Him. We truly are living the most unique love story ever written and He longs for us to fall head over heals in love with Him. And best of all…. We truly will live happily ever after. This Christmas as you are weeping through the movie of your choice remember that God wants to reunite with you, spend quality time together, and in the end live with Him forever.

Is He Enough?

In the last few days I have seen posts from friends admitting they feel alone and asking for prayer.  Following their posts were usually several comments that reinforce the truth that you are never alone, God is there.  I too have responded in this way.  As I pondered these responses I thought about times when I have felt alone.  I knew the truth of God’s presence even when I did not feel it, but I often felt like I needed more.  When Les and I lost a child and in my grief I felt alone, I wanted more.  When I have gone through seasons of depression I knew God was there but it was as though I needed more. When we moved to a new place and I felt alone I wanted friends and yes, more.  I think one of the things God revealed to me is that He is enough even if friends, a child, happiness or whatever I have my heart set on never comes.  I know that God is going to supply my needs and that He is enough even if my wants are never met.

Maybe the real question needs to be Lord, how do I embrace You so that You are enough?  The first place to go is to Him in prayer and admit my feelings.  I know  He already knows, but speaking truth is so important in defining what the real problem is.  Then go to His Word.  Search out scripture and biblical characters who wrestled with some of the same situations.  Then listen to hear what He tells you to do.  Sometimes He just wants us to rest in Him and wait until His timing is right to make the next step.

Jesus is enough no matter how lonely you feel.  As you rest in Him He may direct you to read a book, do something for someone else, visit a person who is suffering, or just help you look around to see how blessed you really are.  Trusting Him is a huge step in finding He is enough.

Water on the Altar: This was written by my spouse, Dr. Les Hughes

 

Anne Graham Lotz is the daughter of Evangelist Billy Graham and his wife, Ruth. She also is a gifted speaker and Bible teacher. God has used Anne many times to speak to me personally. That was the case when I heard her use the phrase, “water on the altar.”

The phrase comes from an account in the Old Testament when  Elijah challenged the priests of Baal on Mount Carmel. The gist of the story is that Elijah, the prophet of God, called out 450 false prophets of Baal. Baal was  an object of idolatry. Elijah told the false prophets to prepare a sacrifice to place upon an altar. He would do the same. Then they were to call upon their god to send fire to consume their altar. Elijah would do the same; and whichever god answered by fire was the true God. Two altars were built–one for God and one for Baal. Elijah challenged the false prophets to select a bull to sacrifice to their god. They were to cut the sacrifice into pieces and place the pieces on the altar, but they weren’t to set fire to it yet. Elijah told them to call on Baal to send fire and consume the sacrifice on the altar. So they began to call upon Baal to send the fire. They called out to him from morning until noon, but nothing happened. They continued to beg Baal until well into the afternoon, but the heavens were silent. Finally, Elijah said, “Enough.”

Then it was Elijah’s turn. Just as the false prophets had done, Elijah selected a bull for the sacrifice and had it killed. Bulls were cut into pieces and placed on the altars. Then Elijah gave orders to dig a huge trench around each altar. He instructed the people to pour water over the altar, which was interesting, especially since there had been no rain in the land for three and a half years. I can’t imagine what must have gone through the minds of the people as they witnessed the apparent waste of such a precious resource, but the water flowed anyway. Finally, the sacrifice was soaked, the wood was soaked, the stones were soaked, and water filled the trench?

“Elijah made the burning of the altar humanly impossible. If God didn’t send down the fire, that thing was never going to catch fire. He wanted all the glory going to God, so when the fire came down, everybody would know it was the Lord.”

If you’re like me, you don’t understand a great deal about the ways of God. Sometimes it seems to me that he makes things very hard that He could make easy if He chose to. But instead of becoming frustrated and grumbling against God or making excuses for why didn’t achieve something or accomplish something significant, what if we considered those challenges water on the altar? Think about how that might change your perspective.

What types of water has God poured on the altar of your life? Physical limitations? Introversion? A dysfunctional family? Allow the water to flow. When God sends down His fire from heaven and does something supernatural in your life He’ll be glorified, because you couldn’t have done it on your own. You were all wet.

If you’d like to see a real-life example of someone who saw a major physical challenge as water on the altar of her life, watch the movie Soul Surfer, which is based on the life of Bethany Hamilton. You may also listen to some of her talks on Youtube.

What are some examples of water on the altar in your life? I’d like to hear them.

Your Mind, The Battle Field

Romans 12:1-2

The battlefield is your mind. There are jobs and sometimes people in your life that may be joy suckers ( My husband calls them joy vampires). These people and jobs cause your mind to turn from thinking on the positive and good around you to focusing on the negative. If it is your job stealing your joy, pray about your attitude. Look at it from the perspective of what God has to say. Col. 3:17 reminds us to do whatever we do in word or deed in the name of the Lord Jesus giving thanks to God the Father through Him. Look at your job by asking how could the way I respond further His kingdom. Maybe it is like the neighborhood children. I was seeing money and food, but God was seeing the lost and hurting. Ask God to change your mind and heart toward whatever it is that sucks your joy out.

If it is people who are robbing your joy ask God to reveal to you why. Is it that they are just negative by nature? Are they demanding and expect compliance from you? Be very careful because too much time spent with a joy sucker can affect your attitude. Rick Warren says, “What gets your mind gets you.” When you are tempted to get discouraged, angry, or you feel taken advantage of be very careful that you see the enemy attack for what it is. Pray and ask God to give you His perspective. Try to define what is stealing your joy. Ask God to reveal anything you aren’t seeing then remedy your situation by thinking on good. Study scripture and allow truth to permeate your thoughts. Focus on Jesus, and limit time with joy sucking people when possible. Make sure you do not become a joy sucker. Your mind really is the battle field, and where you allow your mind to rest will determine your heart attitude.

Confessions of an Exasperated Mom

Ephesians 6:1-4

Di’s story, When Andrew was two and a half we began to have trouble with getting him to go to sleep at night. We would give him a whipping he would cry and scream then go to bed peacefully. It was an every night affair. We were exhausted just trying to get him to go to bed. One night while Danny’s grandmother was visiting with us and it was getting late. Grandmother noticed that Andrew was standing in front of me with Danny’s belt in his hand just staring at us. I didn’t tell her why he was doing this. The poor child was ready to go to bed and because the whippings had become a nightly thing he had come to be spanked. He thought he had to go through this in order for him to go to bed. That was the beginning of the end of that routine.

Discipline is important in the life of a child to teach them what is the safe and right thing to do. As a worn out mom I can assure you I have done it wrong many times, but here are some lessons I have learned:

· Never discipline in your anger. Take time to calm down.

· Make sure the child knows why they are being disciplined.

· Use the discipline technique that communicates to that child appropriate behavior. All children are different and some just need a verbal warning. Other children respond well to time out or restriction. Use only what is appropriate for a change of behavior.

· Reassure your child of your love and desire for their best.

Please pray today for those moms who are exasperated with their child and need an extra measure of grace.

Given Out

Matthew 11:28-30

When I was a child my mom would come to the end of a busy day, put her feet up as she sat on our brown lumpy suede couch and declare, “I am given out.” In my youthful ignorance I assumed she was saying she was tired and in part she was. Once I had children I realized what she meant. She was saying, “I have been giving to someone since I woke up this morning, and now there is no longer any energy left in the tank to give to one more person.” There are five children in my family and mom made sure we had everything we needed and were at the right place on time. She prepared three home cooked meals daily complete with homemade biscuits, bread and desserts. She gave to people in the community and church. She kept our home clean and even vacuumed, swept and mopped almost daily. Just listing all she got done wearies me. Though she gave of herself generously all day she learned the secret of filling her tank again. She went to bed and slept on a regular schedule. She read her Bible daily and spent time with the Lord. Sunday was reserved for church and an afternoon nap. She fixed healthy meals for our family and tried to get exercise at least 3 or 4 times a week. She was generous with her time to others but her family was her top priority. She said yes to one or two service areas at church but said no with a smile when asked to overcommit. If you are feeling “given out” these days check your list. Are you spending time daily with the Lord? Are you getting adequate rest and eating properly? Are there things you need to let go of so you can say yes to the best things? Remember the passage you read today and come to God and allow Him to help you give you rest and direct you to the things that are best for you.

Pray for the “Given out” moms who are all around you.

A Capable Wife

Proverbs 31:10-31

Proverbs 31 is written by a mother looking for a wife for her son. As I look for a godly wife for my sons, I revised it a small bit to reflect these days.

Who can find a capable wife? Her value is greater than any gemstone. Her husband will trust her and she will lack nothing. She will be a blessing all the days of her life. She will be a wise consumer who purchases quality items at a low price. She will shop the sales at the local grocery and provide good meals for her family. She will work hard even if it means getting up early or staying up late to provide for her family’s needs. She will watch for opportunities to provide a little extra income when there is a need. She will be generous to those in need. She will make sure everyone has the clothing they need and maintain her home in a God honoring way. Her husband will be respected because his wife is a great helper to him. Strength and honor are her clothing and she will have peace and a joyful heart at the days to come. She will open her mouth with wisdom and loving instruction will be on her tongue. Her children will call her blessed and her husband will also praise her. Though her outward beauty may dim with the years, she will become more and more radiant as she grows in her relationship with the Lord. Others will see her good works and glorify the Father in Heaven. (I should add and she will love her mother in law.)

Ask God to help you be the Proverbs 31 woman your family needs you to be.